Boost Your Confidence: Three Tips to Build Your Self-Esteem
What is self-confidence? It's feeling good about yourself - having faith in you and in your
abilities. Benefits include an increased
feeling of hope and optimism and more willingness to take chances. When you're
confident, you're ready to open yourself to new experiences. To learn, you have to be a beginner. You have
to allow yourself to make mistakes. That
can be especially trying when your self-esteem is at a low ebb.
What makes it so challenging to feel confident? At the top of the list are negative
self-assessments. Rejections and
disappointments can also wear you down.
I once coached an engineer, whom I'll call "John." He wanted to take on a leadership position
within his professional organization, but he felt that he couldn't because his
English wasn't good enough. Although he
was foreign-born, he had attended college and graduate school in the United
States and was actually very fluent in
English. His challenge? Although he spoke articulately, his accent
sometimes made him hard to understand.
No matter how much anyone encouraged him, he stayed stuck in his view
that his English wasn't good enough to serve on a professional board. He was unwilling to be vulnerable and
therefore never made the leap. To open
yourself to new experiences, you have to have an open mind and, unlike John,
be willing to shed old, tired ways of seeing yourself.
Tips to Help You
Get Past Limiting Beliefs and Boost your Self-Confidence
Take time to appreciate who you are and what you've
achieved, past and present. Devote a few
minutes per day for a self-endorsement break. Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back. Appreciate everything that you like about
yourself, everything that you've got going for yourself, and all the ways that
you show up for yourself and others.
Easy Does it, But Do
You've got to earn your self-confidence by gently continuing
to move yourself forward. Spend less
time in your 'ponder' mode, and more in your 'do' mode. Remember, too much analysis can lead to
paralysis. Instead, be proactive. To ensure that your wishes become reality,
take action daily. The more steps you
take, the more confident you'll feel.
You don't have to do it all by yourself! It's better to get support - more efficient
and more fun. By including others,
you'll be less alone with your challenges. Working through them can even become fun. Other people can help you see yourself in
ways that you can't, and can see possibilities that you don't. With quality support, you will make better
choices. You'll be more likely to move
forward and not retreat. Types of
support include professional/life coaches, counselors, family members, and
Ready to feel better about yourself? Don't wait - get into motion. What's one action that you can take today to
boost your self-confidence?
me know how these tips have helped you.
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